Comments on: Adopt-To take up and make one’s own

By: Brenda

Brenda — Thu, 26 Feb 2009 21:22:06 +0000

You should talk to my BFF Brendan. They are in the process of concluding their adoption. The birth mother is due on March 9 and they are doing semi-open. He said their adoption agency was really awesome to work with. YAY for giving good homes to all children!

By: dee

dee — Thu, 19 Feb 2009 15:02:13 +0000

I think that deciding to be a parent or mentor to a child or to many children is a very personal decision. Whether this happens through birth, adoption, foster care, child care, education, or through bloodlines, the responsibility and capacity to love a small person through their journey to adulthood is one that deserves a great deal of investment.

My only commentary for you and/or for those who have previously responded to you, as you’ve broached the subject of adoption, is to respect each person’s decision and their stance on children- even when it does not match your own. We all come from a variety of different backgrounds and Life does not let us loose without rendering some emotional bumps and bruises along the way. That being said, there are very distinct reasons- often very personal- that drive people to make the choices that they do, even when they may not be able to articulate exactly what those reasons are.

I support you in whatever direction you go.

By: amy.leblanc

amy.leblanc — Thu, 22 Jan 2009 06:26:18 +0000

i feel pretty much the same way in terms of #s 1,2,3 and 5. as for number 4, i think if i did have a child WITH SOMEONE, i would want to be in a legally binding relationship with them when it happened. i would never chose to be a single mother. as for 6, i don’t really care either way if children are in my life. i think if i really wanted more children in my life, i would become a teacher.

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By: Niki

Niki — Thu, 22 Jan 2009 05:21:36 +0000

I believe I have expressed this before, but I think it is awesome that you intend to adopt. My parents attempted to adopt when I was young (they really wanted me to have a sibling), but made some choices which put that dream out of reach.

I have often thought that I would very much like to experience pregnancy – once. And that for any subsequent children I’d like to consider adoption. This may have to do with a (well-appreciated at the time, yes indeed) miscarriage from my early 20s. I want to experience full-term birth (knock-wood). But, I don’t think a child has to grow inside your body in order for you to love, nurture, and raise her. Now that I am a stepmom, it looks like I might have reversed the order of things (I can’t imagine adding on more kids in my 40s, at least not as Mom).

I think that open adoption is a wonderful thing. I imagine it takes some strength of character from all sides. But anything that gives a child more people who love and care for it is a good thing, I say.

Congratulations on reaching this point, sweetie. Please know you can always call upon me for support in this.