The Ladies Who Brunch

September 7, 2010

A few years ago, two girlfriends and I, started a simple get-together, every 3 months or so, to have brunch and share about the details of our life. What happens at these brunches have grown into magical proportions.

We don’t dress up, unless we want to. We share who picks the place, and when. We sometimes talk more after the brunches, but for the most part, we don’t. We have never fought after a brunch, nor AT a brunch. No one has ever bailed on a brunch, or showed up terribly late. We’ve had them mostly at restaurants, but also had them at our homes.

We’ve been the Ladies who Brunch. We’ve been the Ladies who Dinner. We’ve been the Ladies who Overnight in Santa Cruz. In a few months, we’ll be the Ladies who Hot Spring!

I think part of the secret recipe is that we are discreet. We don’t agree with each other, for agreement’s sake. We are trusting in each other’s choices. We support, we laugh, and we question each other. We keep track of who’s who, and when was what. We tread in deeper territory at times, and keep it light at other times.

And every single time we get together, the first thing we say is “It’s so good to see you guys! These brunches have become so important to me!!”

We began to be “heard” about by our other girlfriends, of which there are many. Others wanted in. We were like, Sure! So we had an open house brunch. And while it was nice, it didn’t hold the same intimacy, the same longevity, that our 3 person brunches have. So we decided to keep is Just Us for most of the year, and twice a year, have a Public Ladies who Brunch. I’m getting ready to host the first Public one at my house, and I’m very excited!!

As families get formed, relationships and friendships ebb and flow, as transitions take over and perspectives shift, it can be crucial to get the Long View from those who’ve known you in all your myriad facets. And these Ladies, My Ladies, have been precious to me in this regard. They’ve seen me through alot, and they are ALWAYS on my side. And I’m on theirs.

So I raise a well-loved mimosa to my Ladies, who shine in my heart, and shine in my life. May we brunch until the plates are cold!